Unhappy Days

by Claire Minnaar

I had one of those days yesterday where I felt like someone had kicked me in the stomach and I had been beaten in some dark alley.

Whilst lying in bed last night, I went through conversations and happenings that took place that lead up to me feeling this way and I realised that we live in a time where so many people complain, moan, don’t respect other people, don’t say thank you, etc. We are surrounded by negativity!

What else is really surprising is that it’s not always easy to find people who want to share or give or help anymore without their being a catch of some sort. People shun or avoid getting involved for reasons of their own of which they are all entitled to. People don’t speak straight anymore and to avoid conflict or to get people to keep quiet, they just say stuff to make themselves feel better or get them out of an uncomfortable situation.

Even driving to work can be a negative experience. For example, there are multiple signs for different newspapers on the light posts as you drive along the road and VERY FEW have happy things printed on them – generally it’s about who has been murdered, attacked, pointing out unhappy situations or something crazy about some alien coming out of Grandma’s leg (true story!). How on earth are we to start our mornings on a positive note when there’s just so much unhappiness around us??

How does this sort of thing affect our kids? Are we teaching them the way we do things which aren’t always good?

I don’t want this negativity in my life. When a situation arises where there’s conflict or upset, my energy levels hit rock bottom. I do not want to live this way any longer!

Perhaps I’m alone in this, but I would be interested to know how anyone else feels about this out there? Have something to say or add – please feel free to leave a comment below.

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Renda Harding October 10, 2012 - 7:48 am

I completely agree with you! There’s just SO much negativity out there today! People complaining, murder and strikes going on… we do not watch the news in our house in the evenings, because it’s just the same drama, different day!

But we must just keep on hoping that there are still good people in the world, because they are out there! And that, along with my faith and the upbringing I plan to give my children, is what gives me hope that they will do just fine.

Renee October 10, 2012 - 8:44 am

Staying positive in this day and age is difficult. When I feel defeated by the negativity I actually turn to my daughter and her friends and I am instantly uplifted. Just this morning one of her friends said she smiles so much because then everyone smiles back. Maybe we should try and keep it that simple, and avoid the negativity by removing ourselves from it when we can and remember that how other people behave is beyond our control but we can choose how we react to them. There are great people there!

Main Mamma October 10, 2012 - 8:49 am

Nicely said, Renee! There are definitely great people out there – no doubt about it! xx

Di October 10, 2012 - 10:04 am

Absolutely! There is so much negativity out there. And it affects us all.
After an awesome Monday I had a Tuesday that was affected by someone elses uneducated response to someone having problems with Monkeys. Compassionate people are few and far between.

I volunteer in animal welfare, I feed feral cats and I network shelter animals needing homes.
I get my children involved so that they can grow into compassionate adults!

Sara November 2, 2012 - 4:09 pm

I know what you mean. So, yes, i don’t live in SA anymore – and (sorry) but partly I am relieved that I am not confronted by so much negativity.. Here (in Holland) – this government does something quite clever – they are constantly putting up billboards that say uplifting things – for eg. Nederland wordt heel slimmer (spelling is questionable) – but you can see how this makes one feel (even if you are not dutch) – driving past a billboard like that. What makes me feel good – no matter how far away I am – is my friends – the times I get to connect with them – is food for my soul. I am not a great communicator – but having friends – like minded individuals – makes anything feel possible – AND makes you feel warm inside – no matter whats the “news of the day”


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