This isn’t meant to be a sad or unhappy post, but something I have been thinking about for a while. I felt quite lonely this last week – I’ve been living in a new town for a month and have very few people I know other than my direct family and in-laws and although I love my family SO VERY MUCH, sometimes you just need that someone different or someone else to chat to, share ideas with, etc.
Perhaps I’m the only one that feels this way, but from past experience, I know there’s very often someone else out there going through similar thoughts and / or emotions, so I thought I’d share.
So, here are my a few of my thoughts on being a Mom and feeling alone (based on both my personal experiences and my friends who are Moms):
- You are the only one who can make a decision about your child. No one can make the decisions for you and sometimes making those decisions can feel really lonely- nobody wants to make the wrong choice.
- When having kids, a lot of friends without kids seem to move on and / or away – this can be lonely. I haven’t seen some of my single friends or married friends without kids in months (not necessarily as a result of me not trying to get together). Lives are just different now.
- Finding another Mom who relates to who you are, how you bring up your kids, how you discipline, how you approach things in different aspect, etc. isn’t always easy to find making it difficult sometimes to find someone to really talk to.
- Becoming a Mom means that you WILL be judged and frankly, who wants to be judged by others. I don’t fancy hanging around with someone who judges me constantly or insists on sharing their opinion which they know I won’t necessarily like.
- A lot of Moms can’t just pop out when you have a spare moment or sometimes are just too tired from running around and playing Mom to go out at the drop of a hat.
- You can spend 24/7 with your kids and it’s just not the same as adult company – your kids are your kids and NOT your best friends or that special someone you can have a good chuckle with.
- Every Mom has their own set of emotions and NO ONE else knows how they feel and that can be a really lonely feeling.
- Sometimes, no matter how much you love your husband or partner, sometimes they just aren’t enough.
This was a just passing thought and I thought it was worth sharing as it was on my mind. For me, I know it will blow over as I’m sure it will for you.
Does anyone out there feel the same? Please leave a comment in the comments below.
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