Cyber Woman vs Real Woman: Which one is the REAL YOU?

by Claire Minnaar

One thing about the internet that I just TOTALLY love is that you can be who you want to be – you don’t have to dress up or look good, have your hair done, dress in a particular dress code or put on a show to get people to like you. You can be who you want to be and your true personality (deep down) can come out. (Some people totally abuse this unfortunately, but that’s not what this is post is about.)

However, in the real world, it’s just a completely different story all together. We are judged on how we look and how we operate, generally we want to look good – I know many people who spend an absolute fortune on clothes (I’m afraid, I’m not one of them!). Some tend to put on a façade to hide insecurities or be that person they “think” people want them to be. We act differently, we talk differently OR we just shy away all together.

I am very confident, happy, helpful and whatever good things you can think of when I’m on emails or dealing with people on whatever channel you want to mention – Facebook, Twitter, Forums, etc. I obviously do have days where I get frustrated or annoyed, I’m not perfect! Put me in front of people or a group of people I don’t know at all or very well and all of that disappears because, in a nutshell, my insecurities come out about what I look like, what do I say or not say, how should I act, are they expecting something I am not…. I, therefore, don’t network very often and if I am in a public situation, I will probably stand near to where the drinks / food are (sad, but true!) and watch how everyone else interacts. Sometimes, depending on the number of people or how I feel around the people, I will come out of my so-called shell, but it takes a lot of effort. Sometimes, I won’t go all together.

This got me really thinking the other day though. Networking is important – it’s a great form of socialising and a great way to connect. I’ve decided to put a 3 month plan together now for myself which I start with next week. I’m over this rubbish of hiding / shying away from people.

My passion in life is making a difference in the world even if it’s really small. This applies to helping people in business and in life. I can’t do that sitting at my desk overlooking my garden with its 26 chickens scuffling around. But, now, it’s time I change things and really go out of my comfort zone.

Does this sound like you? Then, take the time to stop hiding and get out there!

Leave a comment on your thoughts – would love to hear from you!

Join the List

Subscribe to our mailing list and stay informed on what's happening on MomTalk!

Awesomeness! Thank you for subscribing!

Oh dear! Something has gone wrong. Please try again.

You may also like


Serene Motherhood October 4, 2012 - 8:11 pm

Great blog, I prefer cyberwoman as I like to become myself, but of course I’m more real woman…its not bad to be both, right?

Good blog, food for thought…

Jennifer October 18, 2012 - 1:56 pm

I hear ya! I moved to SA and started my own business about a year ago, and working from home I met no one. I had to put on my brave face and attend every single event I could possibly find – I needed to network personally AND professionally! I recently rent a shared office space for a few months to get out of my home office and be forced to network even more, which has been great.


Leave a Comment